Tuesday 11 June 2013

We Are All Faking Aren't We?

I look at people, talk to them and I see in their eyes that they are hiding. Hiding from themselves and from me, and from everyone else around them. I consider most people fake, materialistic and incomplete. Fake, for they keep to themselves feelings and thoughts about others that are not meant to be locked. Materialistic, for they value stuff more than people. And incomplete, for their lives are a constant struggle for recognition through means which do not give worth to their real self. 

Why is it so hard to be truthful? To be completely and utterly real in what you say about what you think and how you feel. A lot of us lie to avoid pain and others hide the truth. Both of these have the same negative influence on our self development. We should not run away from pain and sadness. Neither should we feel inclined to assume that feeling lonely or heartbroken is something wrong and that we should do whatever it takes to hide it. Our characters cannot be built from faking so as to just have positive emotions. 

And yet, if you look around you, in your friends' eyes, you could probably see something lurking deeper within them that evaporates as it tries to make its way out into this world. They look at you with a superficial gaze and their eyes never really lock into yours. They are scared to go beyond knowing the physical presence that stands in front of them. It is, for them, easier to fake liking you and to make you assume they agree with whatever you say. For faking positive emotions is always easier than being real and confess negative feelings. Even though, in the long run, confessing the truth would result in a better outcome. They would rather live a lie to be happy now than be truthful and be happier later on. 

So consider this; next time you talk to someone, do not lie, or hide from what you really think. Look into their eyes and listen, but more importantly, when you respond or you are asked to express your opinions, be real.